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Baggage is OK! The Benefits of Dating Someone Who Is Divorced

Baggage is OK! The Benefits of Dating Someone Who Is Divorced

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Dating someone who is divorced is complicated. Very complicated. You’ve got an ex in the picture, you’ve got his ex, you’ve got the kids, you’ve got his kids, you’ve lifestyle changes, you’ve got financial issues and child support payments…

Let’s be honest. In dating someone who is divorced you’ve got baggage. Both of you. It’s not an insult. I myself am divorced and I have baggage. Everyone does. Even people who aren’t divorced.

All that said, there are benefits to dating someone who is divorced. Here are 5:

 

1. Divorced people are real.

The person I am today and the person I was before I was married are very different people. What’s in my core is the same, and that’s no small thing, but looking back, before marriage I had a naïve way about me that all changed when I got divorced. It’s sad, but there was this innocence and rose colored glasses. But now, I feel more genuine now, meaning I see truth and I don’t  sugar coat anything. I think many divorced people are like this, and it’s a great quality, because everything is very honest and upfront. I’m not saying married people aren’t real. They just haven’t been through a divorce, and divorce does something (neither good nor bad) that perhaps makes you wiser, more authentic, and more willing to just be you.

 

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2. Divorced people are willing to commit.

For a short time after divorce, or in some cases forever, some divorced people become non-committal. “I’m never doing this again” is their attitude. But for the most part, the majority of divorcees are willing to make a commitment again. Ask any divorced person, and so many  will say, “I loved being married. I was just married to the wrong person.” In other words, if they committed once, they are willing to commit again.

3. Divorced people have less time and are therefore less demanding of your time, less likely to analyze the relationship to death.

I feel like with kids’ schedules and activities and a job and a business, my busy and complicated lifestyle doesn’t leave me much time for drama. In dating someone who is divorced, you have time to think about the relationship, overanalyze it, create problems that don’t exist, and be demanding of the other person’s time. I think many divorced people just feel grateful for any alone time they get with the person they are dating, and so it becomes much more valuable and meaningful. We appreciate the person more.

 

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4. Divorced people enjoy being loved.

If you think about the end of your marriage, or for some people, the entire marriage, you probably didn’t give or receive much love. Or maybe you gave it and didn’t receive it or vice versa. In any case, when you get divorced and you meet someone, it just feels good to feel loved. I think a lot of divorced people aren’t as afraid to show their level of affection or how much they care. Being vulnerable might feel more okay than it did pre-marriage.

5. Divorced people go on fun and interesting dates.

Just like being loved, at the end of your marriage, you most likely did not go on dates or spend quality time with your now ex, and if you did, you were probably fighting the whole time, making whatever you were doing not so fun. I have done so many wonderful things since I got divorced. One guy invited my friend and I to stay at his beautiful ski home on a mountain in Colorado, another guy made an Israeli dinner for me, and then played his guitar and sang to me, and my now boyfriend and I have gone on so many wonderful, memorable trips together.  Divorced people plan really fun dates, and you end up experiencing new things that lead to new interests.

 

In closing, here is a quote from my novel, FREE GIFT WITH PURCHASE that addresses dating after divorce in regards to baggage.

 

“People with baggage are still capable of finding love again, and the difference between those who do and those who don’t is pretty simple. The ones who end up happy are the ones who put the bitterness and anger bags down, the ones who stop thinking like a victim, and find the guts to go out and find the life they want, the life they feel they deserve.”

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