{"id":124882,"date":"2020-04-23T14:28:02","date_gmt":"2020-04-23T14:28:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/?p=124882"},"modified":"2020-04-23T14:28:02","modified_gmt":"2020-04-23T14:28:02","slug":"quarantine-isnt-ruining-your-marriage-but-it-is-speeding-up-your-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/quarantine-isnt-ruining-your-marriage-but-it-is-speeding-up-your-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"Quarantine Isn\u2019t Ruining Your Marriage, But It Is Speeding Up Your Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"


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When a couple considers divorce<\/a>, there\u2019s a wash of confusion surrounding them and a mantra of \u201cHow did we get here?\u201d repeating in their heads like a bad song. With quarantine<\/a>, I\u2019m guessing a lot more people are hearing this mantra on a daily basis.<\/p>\n

Can being locked in small quarters with someone really cause a divorce<\/a>? No, I don\u2019t believe so. But, it can cause a divorce to happen a lot sooner.<\/p>\n

The reason so many people stay together is routine. We\u2019re all used to doing nearly the same thing every single day. We go to work (or stay home), eat lunch, talk to clients, entertain kids, try to keep sane, and then, by the time we get back together with our spouse at the end of the day, we see them for a few hours before sleep. It never ends. We wake up and do it all again, every day.<\/p>\n

Except now, we\u2019re thrown from our routine. We\u2019re stuck in small areas with our spouses, and we\u2019re not quite sure how to handle it. If they drop another sock on the ground, you might lose it. If they even breathe in your direction, you\u2019re going to snap.<\/p>\n

But is it the stress of quarantine? Or is it because, in however long you\u2019ve been together, you haven\u2019t actually spent that much time together? Besides week-long vacations or a holiday weekend, we only see our spouses for a few hours a day. With kids, it\u2019s even less. We\u2019re busy trying to survive, and quality time with your spouse is limited to an occasional date night.<\/p>\n

Over the course of a relationship, we pick up on little quirks of theirs that bother us. A random sock here, disregarding our feelings here, a flippant comment there. It\u2019s not that big of a deal. But when you\u2019re stuck with a person 24\/7, these small annoyances suddenly become very big deals.<\/p>\n

Quarantine is hard on everyone, but it\u2019s even harder for those whose marriages already have cracks. You may not have even realized they were there, but now, it\u2019s the only thing you notice. You\u2019re snapping at each other or bothered by their presence or a thousand other things. And it\u2019s only made worse when your views regarding quarantine are different. Maybe one spouse is taking this seriously and the other one isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n