{"id":173799,"date":"2021-11-27T08:32:06","date_gmt":"2021-11-27T08:32:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/?p=173799"},"modified":"2021-12-12T15:57:02","modified_gmt":"2021-12-12T15:57:02","slug":"i-feel-broken-dumped-angry-and-in-pain","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/i-feel-broken-dumped-angry-and-in-pain\/","title":{"rendered":"I Feel Broken: Dumped, Angry And In Pain"},"content":{"rendered":"


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I\u2019ve been corresponding with a reader who has been divorced<\/a> for several years, and was recently in a relationship for well over a year, which she thought was happy, healthy, and loving. Until her boyfriend broke up with her via text, causing to write to me: “I feel broken…” The advice I am offering is not only for those who feel broken after a relationship ends, but for those going through a divorce<\/a>, as well.<\/p>\n

Here are some things this reader wrote:<\/p>\n

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I feel broken…completely broken.<\/em><\/p>\n

I never saw it coming.<\/em><\/p>\n

He instantly and completely shut me out. <\/em><\/p>\n

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She said she found out three days after he broke up with her that he was in another relationship.<\/p>\n

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I truly think this is a rebound relationship for him and pray it won\u2019t work and ends sooner than later.<\/em> It\u2019s just so hard since things were so good, at least I thought, and he moved on right away<\/a> if not before he ended it! It really hurts knowing he is so happy and I can\u2019t stop thinking about him and us! <\/em><\/p>\n

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With this guy I finally felt like I had found the one that I truly was compatible with and trusted him so much and never ever expected him to do this to me! He truly fooled me! I feel broken, I am a bit angry but I think I am extremely hurt! And what hurts is that I am in pain and he is happy and doesn\u2019t care. He was the most caring person I have ever met and bam suddenly he doesn\u2019t care at all. \u00a0I just wish he was hurting like I was, but instead he instantly started a new relationship and got rid of me.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

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I’ve been in these shoes. I get that burning feeling of anger, combined with intense pain and sadness of missing the person. Add in that picture you constantly have in your head that he and his new girlfriend are blissful.<\/a> (which is only temporary but you are focused on right now.) It feels helpless and humiliating and just plain old awful.<\/p>\n

Here are 10 pieces of advice for “I feel broken”:<\/h2>\n

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1. Can this man be alone?<\/h3>\n

Sounds like his new relationship is a Band-aid for his pain. Is it going to work out long term. In my opinion, I don’t think so.<\/p>\n

2. The fact that he broke up via text speaks volumes about his cowardly character.<\/h3>\n

3. He might be blissful right now, but I’d be curious to see how it turns out 6 months from now or a year from now.<\/h3>\n

4. Love really is blind.<\/h3>\n

What I mean by that is there is so much we won\u2019t let ourselves see when we are in love. I truly believe that in time, this woman will look back and see the signs she missed about this guy. It will take awhile, but she will start remembering things he said and did that she subconsciously ignored because she loved him and wanted things to work out. It will be both sad and liberating when this happens.<\/p>\n

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\"Going<\/a><\/p>\n

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5. That feeling of being burned is horrible.<\/h3>\n

It feels like there is no justice, like it’s just not fair.<\/a> It\u2019s awful. The best way to deal with it is to let time go by and focus on making yourself happy, enjoying each day, and spending time with friends and people you love. Try to appreciate things in life, and try not to think about the picture of the guy and his new love in bliss, and remember that picture is only temporary. Ten bucks she hasn’t heard the last from this guy.<\/p>\n

6. Don\u2019t think he doesn\u2019t care about you.<\/h3>\n

He probably does care but is too much of a coward to have any kind of confrontation with you. In other words, it\u2019s easier for him to avoid you, and enjoy this relationship that is making him happy at the moment. He sounds very weak, immature and selfish.<\/p>\n

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7. Try to remember the good parts of your relationship.<\/h3>\n

It was real and there are good things that will come of it. I think every relationship makes us a better person and helps us grow.<\/p>\n

8. I think you are a little bit traumatized by how abruptly he ended things.<\/h3>\n

It’s understandable. This might affect you for a long time. He pulled the rug out from underneath you when you felt very sure. That is very very difficult and painful to deal with. It makes it hard to believe you are capable of ever trusting anyone again. Remember that not every man is like this man. He has issues that I\u2019m sure go way beyond you.<\/p>\n

9. Someday you will look back on this and although it will always hurt, you will be in such a good place that you\u2019ll be glad things turned out the way they did.<\/h3>\n

It doesn\u2019t feel like that now, but it will.<\/p>\n

10. Be patient as you heal and move on.<\/h3>\n

It takes time and you will go through a roller coaster<\/a> of emotions. Lastly, be glad you weren\u2019t married when this happened! You could be going through another divorce. This is a clean break and I believe you will be better off. This guy sounds toxic.<\/p>\n

Again, I know what it feels like to be in this situation. It\u2019s horrible and painful. It feels so unfair. It feels bitter and you feel like, \u201cWhen do I get my happy ending?\u201d “I feel broken” is exhausting and weeks go by and it\u2019s depressing. You wish you could call the person and say, \u201cDon\u2019t you miss me as much as I miss you?\u201d but deep down you know the answer. He’s in the infatuation stage with some woman and can’t think about anything else.<\/p>\n

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