{"id":173850,"date":"2021-12-04T08:32:06","date_gmt":"2021-12-04T08:32:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/?p=173850"},"modified":"2021-12-12T15:55:14","modified_gmt":"2021-12-12T15:55:14","slug":"dating-after-divorce-at-50-what-to-wear-what-to-say-and-other-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/dating-after-divorce-at-50-what-to-wear-what-to-say-and-other-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"Dating After Divorce At 50: What To Wear, What To Say And Other Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"


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When I was 49 years old, I ended a six year relationship. Single again<\/a> at 49 and dating again was nauseating to think about, but I did it. Is dating after divorce at 50 easy? Um… How can I say this delicately?<\/p>\n

HELL NO.<\/p>\n

That said, there are many many benefits to dating after divorce at 50! Soooooo many!! It’s really fun and you definitely care a lot less about what people think of you.<\/p>\n

Despite all the baggage and the tainted outlook some people over 50<\/a> have, I think people dating after divorce over 50 are so much more authentic, interesting, real, funny, wise, and entertaining!!<\/p>\n

Please look at dating after divorce at 50 as an adventure versus dreading it. A positive outlook changes everything.<\/h2>\n

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\"Vestor<\/a><\/p>\n

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So, with that said, here is some of my dating after divorce at 50 advice. I decided to break it up into four\u00a0 categories, and offer in my opinion\u2014based on my history of dating and relationships<\/a>, what is attractive and what is not. Remember that what I wrote is just my opinion\u2014not what is right or wrong.<\/p>\n

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\"Leslie<\/a><\/p>\n

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Appearance<\/em><\/h2>\n

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Men, vests will never be attractive to a woman. We love classic button downs, jeans, khakis and understated attire. That doesn\u2019t mean boring. It just means showing yourself and your body to a woman rather than meaningless designer labels and what you think will be impressive.<\/p>\n

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As far as the way a woman dating after divorce at 50 should dress for a date: I truly believe that men don\u2019t want the low-cut, cleavage-showing top, the skin tight jeans, or the 5 inch heels. The key is to be sexy without trying.<\/p>\n

That comes with wearing clothing that highlights the parts of your body you love<\/a>. If you have great legs, go with a skirt and heels. If your lips are your thing, bright lipstick is the way to go. If you are proud of your biceps, go sleeveless. Whatever outfit is going to make you feel beautiful and convey the most self-confidence you have, that\u2019s the outfit.<\/p>\n

On a side note, in regards to perfume (or cologne), less is more!<\/p>\n

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\"Going<\/a><\/p>\n

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Conversation<\/em><\/h2>\n

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Here are 9 huge turnoffs:<\/h3>\n

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1. When someone talks about how great Bumble or Tinder<\/a> has been to him or her, and how tons of men (or women) are dying to meet them. Even if it\u2019s true, keep it to yourself.<\/p>\n

2. When people lie and talk about how much they are enjoying meeting new people and how much fun dating is. No one loves it\u2014at least for more than a couple weeks.<\/p>\n

3. Badmouthing an ex or using any derogatory terms when referring to him or her. I once went out with a guy who called his ex-wife a \u201cC\u201d and I almost spit up the sip of wine I had just taken. I wanted to leave before dinner. I would never give him the time of day again. Ever.<\/p>\n

4. Bragging about a job and how well you are doing. You might be thinking your date will feel good about the fact that you have money, but I find those who are truly successful don\u2019t really talk too much about that.<\/p>\n

5. Playing the victim<\/a> or having the woe is me attitude. It\u2019s very unattractive. Feel sorry for yourself to your friends and family or therapist, not your dates.<\/p>\n

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\"6<\/a><\/p>\n

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6. Giving someone a novel about your life instead of asking your date questions and allowing that person to talk about themselves. In dating, listening is so much more important than talking.<\/p>\n

7. Trying to prove you are the best father (or mom) in the world and talking about how much time and money you spend on your kid, or how little time or money your ex spends with your kids.<\/p>\n

8. Sending food back or being rude to the waiter\/busboy.<\/p>\n

9. Looking at your phone and texting. Phones should be in your purse\/pocket for the entire date with the exception needing to see it in case kids call.<\/p>\n

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\"Divorce<\/a><\/p>\n

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The winning attitude:<\/h3>\n

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1. Smile a lot.
\n2. Laugh a lot.<\/a>
\n3. Before you leave the house, think to yourself, \u201cWhatever happens is fine. If he\/she doesn\u2019t like me, that\u2019s OK. It doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019m unlikeable. It just means it wasn\u2019t a fit and wasn\u2019t meant to be. I still like me.\u201d Also, remember that you are there to see if you like that other person, so focus on that more than whether that person likes you.
\n4. Don\u2019t be afraid to be vulnerable. I once had a guy tell me I was the most interesting first date he\u2019s ever been on. Why do I think he said that? Because I was asking some pretty deep questions early on and the conversation got pretty interesting quickly.
\n5. Remember that if you like yourself, he\/she most likely likes you too. One way to tell if he\/she has potential, is if you like yourself around him\/her. I once dated a guy who I always felt not good enough for\u2014for reasons I will never, ever know to this day! I wanted him to love me so badly and he just didn\u2019t. I should have broken it off after the first date instead of torturing myself for a few months. Not really sure why I did that to myself.
\n6. Make the other person feel important, special and like he or she matters. Even if you know it\u2019s not a love connection, listen and be interested in what they have to say. You can never go wrong treating someone with this kind of respect.
\n7. Level with your date. Don\u2019t be afraid to be upfront about what you want. Of course, you don\u2019t want to scare the person off, but don\u2019t play games. There\u2019s no time for that.<\/p>\n

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