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Let’s be honest. Divorce is hard. Really hard. But sometimes, the smallest things can make the biggest difference. When you are going through a divorce,<\/a> getting a few good divorce tips can save you a ton of time and money,<\/a> not to mention untold amounts of grief and aggravation.<\/p>\n

The problem is, the best divorce tips are likely to come from divorce professionals \u2013 and getting their advice costs money!<\/p>\n

To help you out, I\u2019ve put together a list of 17 divorce tips to help you navigate through your divorce with less pain and problems.<\/p>\n

17 Divorce Tips<\/strong><\/h2>\n

1. Stay out of court.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

No matter how much you might want to \u201ctell the judge your story,\u201d you do NOT want a total stranger in a black robe deciding what will happen to your kids, your finances, and your future. Unless you have absolutely no choice<\/a> at all, settle your case outside of court.<\/p>\n

2. Get a therapist.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Divorce is hard. When you are going through a divorce you will be making decisions that will affect your life and your kids\u2019 lives, for years to come. You can\u2019t make good decisions when you can\u2019t think. You can\u2019t think when you are an emotional basket case. Working with a therapist<\/a> will help you deal with how you feel, so that you can think more clearly.<\/p>\n

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3. Decide HOW you want to divorce first, THEN hire a divorce lawyer.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

If you want to use mediation <\/a>to resolve your divorce, but you hire a shark divorce attorney, your mediation will fail. If you need to litigate because your spouse is being a jerk, and you hire an attorney who is more comfortable in a conference room than a court room, you are going to get hammered. You have to decide which divorce process you want to use, then hire an attorney who is comfortable using that kind of process.<\/p>\n

4. Be careful which lawyer you hire.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

This is not the time to hire your grade school friend who is now a real estate lawyer. You need to get a lawyer who is experienced in handling family law cases, <\/a>and who is familiar with the judges and the court system in your area.<\/p>\n

5. Take care of yourself.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Divorce is a marathon, not a sprint. If you are going to make it through your divorce without having a breakdown, you need to take care of yourself. Eat healthy. Exercise. Do your best to get 8 hours of sleep a night. The better you feel physically, the sharper you will be mentally.<\/p>\n

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6. Do your best not to overindulge in anything.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Sure, it feels good to numb the pain with wine<\/a>, drugs, food, shopping, sex, or whatever your vice of choice is. But, in the long run, all of those behaviors only bring you down more. Right now you need to engage in activities that build you up, not tear you down.<\/p>\n

7. Circle the wagons.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Do not try to go through your divorce alone. This is no time to try to be a super hero or a martyr. That doesn\u2019t mean you need to publicly announce your divorce to everyone you know. It does mean you should put together a tight group of family and friends who can support you and pick you up when you are feeling really down.<\/p>\n

8. Take ownership of your divorce.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Don\u2019t think you can offload all of your divorce issues on your lawyer. Yes, your lawyer will try to protect you. But, this is your life! You need to pay attention to what is going on, ask questions, and actively participate in your divorce if you want to get the best result<\/p>\n

9. Ditch the drama.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

If you want to have a more peaceful divorce, you need to consciously walk away when your spouse wants to fight.<\/a> Don\u2019t engage. It may take every ounce of energy you have, but when your spouse starts pushing your buttons, resist the urge to take the bait.<\/p>\n

10. Decide from the start whether you would rather be right or be happy.<\/h2>\n

If you are waiting for your spouse to apologize for his\/her horrible behavior during the marriage, you are going to be waiting a long, long time. \u00a0Your spouse is not likely to wake up one morning with a burning desire to admit that you were right and s\/he was wrong. You may never get an apology, or even an explanation, for what has gone on in the past. You can either fight for years for something that you are not going to get, or you can just let it go.<\/p>\n

11. Stop trying to control your spouse.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

You can\u2019t control what your spouse does, where your spouse lives, who your spouse associates with, or even how s\/he parents your kids. You couldn\u2019t control your spouse while you were married. What makes you think you are going to do it now that you are getting divorced?<\/p>\n

12. Keep your kids out of the middle<\/strong>.<\/h2>\n

Do not use your children to deliver messages or money to your former spouse.<\/a> Do not interrogate them about what your former spouse is doing, who s\/he is dating, or what his\/her new home is like. It is none of your business, and that kind of behavior puts your kids right in the middle of your mess.<\/p>\n

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\"Rita<\/a><\/p>\n

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