{"id":224751,"date":"2024-02-07T16:49:20","date_gmt":"2024-02-07T16:49:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/?p=224751"},"modified":"2024-02-07T16:49:20","modified_gmt":"2024-02-07T16:49:20","slug":"finding-happiness-after-divorce-isnt-a-possibility-its-a-probability","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/finding-happiness-after-divorce-isnt-a-possibility-its-a-probability\/","title":{"rendered":"Finding Happiness After Divorce isn\u2019t a Possibility, it\u2019s a PROBABILITY"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u00a0<\/b>Ask any newly separated man or woman<\/a> if he or she thinks finding happiness after divorce is possible, and the answer you get will involve a grim outlook.<\/p>\n

\u201cWho knows?\u201d they will might say with their head down, their eyes possibly filling with tears. \u201cI haven\u2019t thought that far ahead. I\u2019m just thinking about how to survive RIGHT NOW.\u201d<\/p>\n

My opinion is, finding happiness after divorce is not a possibility, but rather a PROBABILITY, and I can say that because of the dozens of divorced women and men\u00a0I have seen go from sad, weary, scared, frustrated, angry and depressed to happy, self-confident, strong, empowered, and so often, madly in love!<\/a><\/p>\n

I want to give an example, which happens to be my inspiration for this article. About a year ago, a ran into a friend of mine at the gym, and she told me she and her husband of 10 years were separating. They have two young kids. From what she said, my impression was that it was her husband\u2019s decision. She teared up, and I felt sick about it because I just love this girl.<\/p>\n

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\"My<\/a><\/p>\n

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So, time goes on, and I continue to see her at the gym, always sad, always looking anxious and stressed and sad. It was a look that would make me want to cry. Yet, she kept going to the gym. In other words, she kept living her life.<\/p>\n

We would talk every now and again, and she would tell me the usual divorce nightmare stories\u2026<\/p>\n

She was worried about finances,<\/a> she was fearful that she was going to be alone forever, she was worried about how her kids were going to handle this, she knew her husband was dating other women and seemed happy, etc. etc.<\/p>\n

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\"Feig<\/a><\/p>\n

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So, a few days ago, I ran into her. I hadn\u2019t seen her in awhile, and I noticed she looked absolutely beautiful.\u00a0 I told her so, and she smiled. \u201cThank you so much. \u201cI\u2019ve lost 18 pounds.\u201d BTW, it wasn\u2019t the weight loss that made her look beautiful to me. It was more of her attitude, a glow, and an inner-peace I was sensing.<\/p>\n

I asked how things were and she told me her kids were doing well, and that she changed jobs and loved her new position.<\/p>\n

I then said to her, \u201cYou met someone, didn\u2019t you?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYes! I did!!\u201d she exclaimed.<\/p>\n

She met a man on a dating website who has two children and they are very happy right now. She said she\u2019s not sure what\u2019s going to happen and doesn\u2019t really think about it so much. She\u2019s just enjoying feeling loved and happy.<\/p>\n

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\"Leslie<\/a><\/p>\n

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I hugged her and when I walked away, I felt hopeful and inspired. But, I didn\u2019t really feel surprised. Why? Because this story is so typical, in my opinion. I see it a lot.<\/p>\n

I almost feel like happiness after divorce is the norm, for people who work on themselves.<\/h2>\n

What I mean by \u201cwork on themselves\u201d is, it isn\u2019t luck when it comes to finding happiness after divorce. The men and women I meet with a story like my friend\u2019s are those who make good, selfless choices. Those who focus on their children, their career, and who do positive things to heal from their divorce.<\/p>\n

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