{"id":229673,"date":"2024-04-23T08:45:16","date_gmt":"2024-04-23T08:45:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/?p=229673"},"modified":"2024-04-23T08:45:16","modified_gmt":"2024-04-23T08:45:16","slug":"why-taking-the-high-road-in-divorce-matters-and-10-ways-to-do-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/why-taking-the-high-road-in-divorce-matters-and-10-ways-to-do-it\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Taking The High Road In Divorce Matters And 10 Ways To Do It"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Taking the high road in divorce is not easy. As a matter of fact, it might seem downright unfair,<\/a> and even stupid sometimes. Why would you ever want to do anything good, or fair, or nice to someone who just destroyed your family, your dreams, and your heart?<\/p>\n

If you have kids, the obvious reason is to do it for their sake. Because whether you like it or not, you and your ex are going to be your kids\u2019 parents forever. The better the two of you get along, the easier your divorce<\/a> will be on your kids.<\/p>\n

It really is that simple.<\/p>\n

The second reason for taking the high road in divorce is less obvious, but it is no less important.<\/p>\n

You can divorce your spouse. But you can never divorce yourself. After your divorce is over, you are going to have to look in the mirror every single day and face yourself.<\/p>\n

You \u2013 who you are and what you stand for \u2013 is far more valuable and far more important than acting in a way you will later be ashamed of or regret. In the long run, your integrity is worth more than the extra dollars you may get in your divorce settlement if you lie, cheat, or act like a jerk.<\/p>\n

You have already lost your marriage. Don\u2019t let your divorce cost you your soul, too.<\/p>\n

Here are 10 ways to taking the high road in divorce:<\/h2>\n

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1. Treat your spouse with respect, even if s\/he doesn\u2019t deserve it.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Your spouse is a human being. No matter what s\/he has done in the past, you owe it to your spouse to at least be civil (especially in front of the kids) simply because s\/he is human. (In truth, that may be the only reason you can think of for not ripping your spouse to shreds. But that\u2019s okay. You work with what you have got.)<\/p>\n

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2. Freely share information about the kids, without needing to be asked.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

No matter how angry you are at your spouse,<\/a> remember, your kids are a part of both of you! Your kids know it, and they feel it. Openly sharing information about your kids lives is a simple, but powerful way to start to build a relationship as co-parents. Like it or not, that is what the two of you will be for as long as you live. Anything you can do to make that relationship better will benefit your kids beyond measure.<\/p>\n

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3. Switch parenting days and times without making it a big deal.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

So what if you don\u2019t feel that it is fair to you that you have to constantly re-arrange your schedule to accommodate your ex\u2019s last minute plans with the kids. If it is better for your kids to switch, then just do it! Obviously, if you can\u2019t switch because of your work schedule, or if you already have plans, you may not be able to switch parenting times. But, if switching is just annoying, suck it up and do what you need to make your kids\u2019 lives easier.<\/p>\n

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\"Karen<\/a><\/p>\n

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4. Don\u2019t tell your kids all of the details of your split.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Yes, you want to tell your kids \u201cthe truth,\u201d especially if they are older. But, there are some things that your kids never need to know, no matter how old they are! You are not \u201chiding information\u201d from them by not sharing inappropriate details about your marriage with them. You are protecting them. You are their parent. That is what parents do.<\/p>\n

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5. Just because you have the upper hand in your divorce, that doesn\u2019t mean you have to play it.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

This probably goes against everything that a \u201cgood\u201d litigation attorney would ever tell you to do. But, there is more to life than safeguarding your \u201clegal rights.\u201d So what if you have the power to destroy your spouse legally, financially, or emotionally? If you were in charge of a nuclear weapon, would you use it just because you could?<\/p>\n

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