{"id":236697,"date":"2024-08-07T13:21:49","date_gmt":"2024-08-07T13:21:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/?p=236697"},"modified":"2024-08-07T13:21:49","modified_gmt":"2024-08-07T13:21:49","slug":"what-not-to-say-to-someone-going-through-a-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/what-not-to-say-to-someone-going-through-a-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"What NOT to Say To Someone Going Through a Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When I was newly separated<\/a>, I was brokenhearted. I also had feelings of fear, anger, resentment and confusion. I felt like I was living in a fog, like maybe I\u2019d wake up the next day and this would all have been a dream. Unfortunately, the nightmare was real. What I do remember so vividly, even after all these years, were some of the unbelievable things people said to me when I was first getting divorced<\/a>. Some were actually jaw-dropping, some were really rude, and some were just outright stupid. So, I felt like I should write an article about what NOT to say to someone going through a divorce.<\/p>\n

One of the things I remember was a woman calling me and saying \u201cWhat happened?!\u201d Then I heard her talking to her mother and saying, \u201cI\u2019m on the phone with Jackie getting the scoop!\u201d I\u2019m serious! Another woman called and asked, \u201cWhy the hell would you divorce him? He\u2019s such a cute guy!\u201d Another person said, \u201cI heard what happened. How old are you?\u201d<\/p>\n

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\u00a0Here is a list of what NOT to say to someone going through a divorce-12 things:<\/h2>\n

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1. You\u2019re going to be fine.<\/h2>\n

How do you know that? Are you a doctor? Are you a psychic? I didn\u2019t think so. Of course I\u2019m going to be fine. That\u2019s not the point. The point is that I\u2019m not fine right now!<\/p>\n

2. You can do so much better.<\/h2>\n

Freshly dumped doesn\u2019t want to hear about the next guy or girl. Let me mourn my soon-to-be ex for a little while, please.<\/p>\n

3. You\u2019ll bounce back fast.<\/h2>\n

I need some time to process that the person I loved isn\u2019t mine anymore. I don\u2019t want to think about bouncing back. I want to be stay right where I am: feeling sorry for myself and grieving.<\/p>\n

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\"Cherie<\/a><\/p>\n

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4. Did you guys try couples therapy?<\/h2>\n

A, it\u2019s none of your business, and B, what couple gets divorced without trying couples therapy?<\/a><\/p>\n

5. That guy was a total jerk or I never liked him.<\/h2>\n

I happened to have loved him or her, and yes, everyone has flaws. But right now, I don\u2019t want to hear your opinion of him or her. This information is best saved for months down the road when I am somewhat over him.<\/p>\n

6. Everything happens for a reason.<\/h2>\n

My life isn\u2019t a cliche. Please talk to me like a person, not with words that belong on a coffee mug.<\/p>\n

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