{"id":240495,"date":"2024-10-01T13:45:09","date_gmt":"2024-10-01T13:45:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/?p=240495"},"modified":"2024-10-01T13:45:09","modified_gmt":"2024-10-01T13:45:09","slug":"tough-love-for-woman-with-lack-of-self-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/tough-love-for-woman-with-lack-of-self-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Tough Love for Woman with Lack of Self-Love"},"content":{"rendered":"


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From a reader: <\/i> I have let go of my divorce anger<\/a> and I can tell you that my life did not get better. It seems to get worse and worse. I feel trapped\u2026 like maybe I deserve to be mistreated by everyone around me. I have such a lack of self-love.<\/i><\/p>\n

Being picked up and then thrown down has damaged my ability to trust men. My self-worth and esteem have been taken to astounding lows. I feel like no one could ever love someone like me. I still hurt even as the anger has subsided. I guess some wounds can\u2019t be healed or soothed.<\/i><\/p>\n

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…maybe I deserve to be mistreated by everyone around me.<\/i><\/p>\n

…I feel like no one could ever love someone like me.<\/i><\/p>\n

These statements clearly show low self-esteem and lack of self-love. What I want to ask her is, what happened specifically that made you feel this way?<\/p>\n

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I truly think many people (including me) who go through a divorce<\/a> lose themselves temporarily, and their self-esteem, self-confidence and self-love sometimes take a big hit.<\/p>\n

Why? Possible reasons: they’ve been treated so badly for so long that they are used to it. They’ve been emotionally or physically abused. Or, maybe they’ve made mistakes and said things and done things about which they are angry at themselves.<\/p>\n

So, how do you get self-love back?<\/h2>\n

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1. You recognize that you have lack of self-love and try to figure out where it is stemming from.<\/h2>\n

2. You seek help.<\/h2>\n

Yes, that means therapy. <\/a>You go to someone and you find the time and the courage to get help.<\/p>\n

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3. You start doing things that promote self-love.<\/h2>\n

These things might include self-care, like taking better care of your body physically–working out, eating healthy, minimizing drinking… Or, maybe volunteer work, or doing more kind, thoughtful acts for others.<\/p>\n

4. You surround yourself with people who care about you and love you–family, old friends, new friends.<\/h2>\n

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5. You surround yourself with people who are good for you. What I mean by that is, people who you like yourself around, who you are in healthy relationships with.<\/h2>\n

6. You stop hanging around people who are toxic and who make you not like yourself.<\/h2>\n

7. You remember where you came from before you were married.<\/h2>\n

Before this divorce thing<\/a> whisked away your self-love.<\/p>\n

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