{"id":256501,"date":"2025-05-31T08:13:50","date_gmt":"2025-05-31T08:13:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/?p=256501"},"modified":"2025-05-31T08:13:50","modified_gmt":"2025-05-31T08:13:50","slug":"her-husband-left-her-at-the-hospital-after-a-surgery-to-spend-time-with-his-visiting-mother-so-shes-considering-divorce-twistedsifter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/her-husband-left-her-at-the-hospital-after-a-surgery-to-spend-time-with-his-visiting-mother-so-shes-considering-divorce-twistedsifter\/","title":{"rendered":"Her Husband Left Her At The Hospital After A Surgery To Spend Time With His Visiting Mother, So She\u2019s Considering Divorce \u00bb TwistedSifter"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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When you get married to someone, you also have to deal with their extended family.<\/p>\n

What would you do if your husband wanted to drop everything (and use all his PTO) every time his mom visited?<\/p>\n

That is what happened to the wife in this story<\/a>, and her husband even abandoned her in the hospital to spend time with his mom, so now she is angry and thinking about divorce.<\/p>\n

Check it out.<\/p>\n

I (29F) am really disappointed with my husband (30M) and furious at his mother (hag-aged F).<\/p>\n

For context, my husband is from the West Coast, where his mother still lives.<\/p>\n

He moved to the East Coast for college and that\u2019s were we met (after graduation).<\/p>\n

In the start of our relationship, she would visit 3-4 times a year and make him take PTO so he could entertain her throughout her visit.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

This sounds like a good compromise.<\/p>\n

After 2 years of this (while we were still dating) I asked him how we are ever meant to go on a vacation together, if his PTO is spent at home with his visiting mother?<\/p>\n

We agreed to save PTO for a trip to Europe we took in 2023 and he agreed to tell his mother he couldn\u2019t take off from work every time she visited.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Mom needs to find a way to entertain herself.<\/p>\n

In my last job, I was able to work from home 4 days a week and every time she visited, she sulked all day like a puppy who\u2019s had her toys taken away.<\/p>\n

But once my husband came home, a switch flicked and she was happy (and clingy) again.<\/p>\n

So here\u2019s the issue now:<\/p>\n

Husband and I moved states about 6 months ago, closer to my family.<\/p>\n

I have a new doctor who recommended me for a surgery that my old doc kept putting off.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not a complicated procedure and it will greatly increase my quality of life for decades.<\/p>\n

My mother-in-law decided she\u2019s due for a visit and wants to explore our new town and she\u2019d come \u201cto help around the house while [OP] recovers.\u201d<\/p>\n

I\u2019m going to be out of surgery and in pain and I really don\u2019t want to put up with her energy.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I\u2019m betting this doesn\u2019t end well.<\/p>\n

However, we agreed, with my husband saying this isn\u2019t a sightseeing visit, she\u2019s here to help out (cook, clean, laundry, etc) so I can rest and recover.<\/p>\n

She can come for a proper visit later in the year.<\/p>\n

My husband dropped me off at the hospital on Wednesday.<\/p>\n

It was meant to be surgery, then one night overnight at the hospital for observations.<\/p>\n

On Thursday, the doctor told me my labs were not where he\u2019d like them to be and I should stay another night for observation and new lab work in the morning.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

What kind of husband doesn\u2019t even visit his wife in the hospital?<\/p>\n

I called my husband and told him that I\u2019d hopefully be home the next day over the phone early afternoon.<\/p>\n

He did not visit on Thursday at all.<\/p>\n

On Friday I was discharged and called my husband to tell him that I\u2019d be ready in about an hour.<\/p>\n

It went straight to voicemail and I figured he\u2019s probably in a meeting and I\u2019ll try again in a little bit.<\/p>\n

After calling a few times over the course of over an hour, I called my sister, who was lucky enough to be excused from work for the afternoon (many thanks to her understanding boss).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Oh, I would be irate.<\/p>\n

She drove 90 minutes to get me and took me home and the house was in shambles.<\/p>\n

Laundry baskets on the dining room table, the litter box not cleaned since Wednesday morning, days of dirty plates in the sink, etc.<\/p>\n

I just broke down crying. She packed me a bag and took me to her apartment to recover for two weeks.<\/p>\n

On Friday night my husband called me asking me where I am and that the hospital said I was already discharged.<\/p>\n

He had been on a hike with his mother and there was no cell phone service so he missed my calls, which also meant he took PTO for his mom\u2019s visit again.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Wow, he is way out of line.<\/p>\n

Obviously, I can\u2019t ban him from taking PTO, but wouldn\u2019t you rather spend that freed up time with your wife at the hospital instead of on a date with your mom?<\/p>\n

I told him that I no longer feel comfortable recovering in our house and I won\u2019t be returning until it\u2019s thoroughly cleaned and his mother is gone.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s calling me the jerk because his mother just wanted to get to know our new area and I was wasn\u2019t able to leave the hospital, anyway, and that I was making a big deal out of this.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I certainly can\u2019t blame her for being upset.<\/p>\n

I yelled that he essentially abandoned me at the hospital and entertained someone whose being here was to help make recovery easier, not more stressful, and that she was here for support, not on a vacation.<\/p>\n

Maybe it\u2019s just the pain and pain meds, but am I in the wrong here?<\/p>\n

Is this a stupid hill to die on?<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a part of me telling me to see a divorce lawyer just to see what my options are because I\u2019m not sure this will ever change.<\/p>\n

I know this is going to sound incredibly selfish, but I want kids but I now don\u2019t see myself having any with my husband in the foreseeable future.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Divorce is never an easy decision, but it is easier now without kids.<\/p>\n

And if this isn\u2019t going to work out, I don\u2019t want to spend the next 5 years of wasting time and money on therapy and missing a chance to find someone I actually can start a family with, someone who can be a committed father and husband before he\u2019s a son.<\/p>\n

Many thanks to anyone who\u2019s read all of this.<\/p>\n

So, AITA?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Wow, what kind of husband leaves his wife at the hospital to go on a hike, and with no cell service no less.<\/p>\n

Read on to see what the people in the comments say about it.<\/p>\n

Yeah, he should have been there Thursday.<\/p>\n

\"Comment\"Comment<\/p>\n

This commenter says Mom is manipulative.<\/p>\n

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Sadly, divorce might be the right move.<\/p>\n

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The husband is way out of line.<\/p>\n

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This commenter can\u2019t believe what he did.<\/p>\n

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Having a good relationship with your mother is great, but not at the expense of your wife.<\/p>\n

This mama\u2019s boy needs to grow up or get out.<\/p>\n

If you thought that was an interesting story, check this one out about a man who created a points system for his inheritance, and a family friend ends up getting almost all of it.<\/a><\/p>\n

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