Jennifer Aniston<\/a> and Justin Theroux have announced they are separating<\/a> after two-and-a-half years of marriage, saying they are\u00a0\u201ctwo best friends who have decided to part ways as a couple\u201d.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n In a statement released to the Associated Press<\/a>, the pair said the decision to split \u201cwas mutual and lovingly made at the end of last year,\u201d adding: \u201cWe are determined to maintain the deep respect and love that we have for one another.\u201d<\/p>\n <\/p>\n While an amicable divorce sounds like the ideal way to part, if feelings have been hurt and trust no longer exists, remaining civil, let alone friends, isn\u2019t always easy.<\/p>\n Is it even possible to remain on good terms with an ex spouse outside of the privileged Hollywood bubble, and if so, how do you do it?\u00a0<\/p>\n <\/p><\/div>\n According to Gurpreet Singh, a relationship counsellor at Relate<\/a>, it\u2019s only natural to have some negative feelings towards your ex and it\u2019s important not to deny this. To establish healthy dialogue, ex couples should own up to these thoughts, with the ultimate aim of working through them together.\u00a0<\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u00a0\u201cBe honest about how you feel. It\u2019s also possible that with the loss of the relationship some level of trust has been lost. This will further impact the tone of communication and the level of honesty in it,\u201d he told HuffPost UK.<\/p>\n \u201cKnowing that trust is lost and setting boundaries to prevent further deterioration is important. If the conversation starts to go south, then sometimes it\u2019s a good idea to walk away and come back when both of you are a little bit calmer and able to talk more rationally.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n Singh said establishing this fair and calm communication helps to take some heat out of certain aspects of divorce, such as dividing assets. Of course, you should see a solicitor to make these decisions legally binding. Singh also advised against expecting friends and family to pick sides.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s unlikely that anyone will want to intensify their hurt and pain by losing other relationships on top of the one with their partner. Relationships are an emotional investment for both of you,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n \u201cUnderstanding this about yourself and your partner allows you to manage these feelings. It\u2019s likely that there will be some awkwardness and there may be some realignment of relationships with any common friends and family. Understanding the awkwardness and working through it by talking to your friends and family openly about it, and with your partner, minimises the hurt feelings, the loss, the pain and allows closure for everyone. It\u2019s particularly beneficial to any children involved.\u201d<\/p>\n Couples from around the UK previously told HuffPost UK<\/a> it is possible to remain on good terms after divorce, but it often takes hard work and time.<\/p>\n L\u2019Tomay Douglas said it\u2019s important to see an ex as an ally, after all, you will have a shared past. She wanted nothing to do with her husband Melvin initially after their \u201cmutually hostile\u201d spilt.\u00a0However, as the years passed they found a way to put their differences aside and establish an amicable relationship. They attended their daughter\u2019s university graduation together and are now even Facebook friends.<\/p>\n \u00a0\u201c[We separated because] our belief systems no longer aligned and that was negatively impacting our marriage and view of one another.\u00a0Our marriage ended in an ugly divorce in which I almost lost custody of our daughter,\u201d she said.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cThe love for my daughter motivated me to find a way for us to get along. It was difficult, but I resolved to move past the pain of our dissolution, recognise that our daughter needed her dad and focused on the good that could only come from having him as an ally.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n Faith Brown said you shouldn\u2019t give up hope if you can\u2019t initially establish a friendship with your ex. She described the period after the divorce from her husband as a \u201cgrieving process\u201d. The pair went their separate ways and eventually lost touch after she came out as lesbian, but Brown decided to reach out and reconnect years later.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cDespite what had happened, I essentially finished growing up together with him. So, I wrote a letter and posted it to his mum\u2019s address. She passed it on and we started communicating again from there,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n \u201cLooking back at my previous marriage and divorce I am very thankful to have done it in many aspects. He is a fantastic person I was lucky to have known and it couldn\u2019t have happened any other way. At the same time, it must have been quite painful for him. It certainly was for me and I was the one who instigated the divorce.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n Both Douglas and Brown are now in happy relationships with other people after divorce and Singh said finding love again can be easier if you\u2019ve had an amicable split.<\/p>\n \u201cAn acrimonious split will create negative feelings that might delay or prevent closure and may also follow one or both people into their future relationships,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n \u201cBut an amicable parting through good communication allows both parties to move on and build stronger relationships in the future.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n Jennifer Aniston and Justin Theroux have announced they are separating after two-and-a-half years of marriage, saying they are\u00a0\u201ctwo best friends who have decided to part ways as a couple\u201d. In a statement released to the Associated Press, the pair said the decision to split \u201cwas mutual and lovingly made at the end of last year,\u201d … <\/p>\n
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