{"id":95092,"date":"2019-10-22T13:05:24","date_gmt":"2019-10-22T13:05:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/?p=95092"},"modified":"2019-10-26T14:03:42","modified_gmt":"2019-10-26T14:03:42","slug":"8-pieces-of-rock-n-roll-divorce-wisdom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominiclevent.com\/blog\/8-pieces-of-rock-n-roll-divorce-wisdom\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Pieces of Rock \u2018n\u2019 Roll Divorce Wisdom"},"content":{"rendered":"


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The pain of divorce expressed beautifully in this song.<\/p>\n

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I heard this song, \u201cWhen You Love Someone,\u201d on the radio today on a pop music station. I found the song very moving and accurate.\u00a0 It reflected some of the thoughts I experienced during my divorce.\u00a0 I thought to myself that\u00a0divorce is so common now that songwriters and singers have taken up the topic. Listening to the wisdom<\/a> in these lyrics, the truth of the words hit me hard. Eight wise expressions about divorce are in the lyrics.\u00a0 The lyrics are below in italics<\/em>.<\/p>\n

When You Love Someone (lyrics)<\/em><\/p>\n

Come home early after class
Don’t be hanging ’round the back of the schoolyard
I’ve been called up by a teacher
She says she can’t even reach you ’cause you’re so far
You’ve been talking with your fist
We didn’t raise you up like this, now did we<\/em><\/p>\n

1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Kids suffer when their parents divorce, especially when there is conflict. When children are angry, hurt or confused they sometimes act out in school.\u00a0 The behavior may be an expression of frustration or an unconscious<\/a> effort to bring their parents back together.<\/p>\n

There have been changes in this house
Things that you don’t know about in this family<\/em><\/p>\n

It don’t make sense, but nevertheless
You gotta believe us, it’s all for the best
It don’t make sense
The way things go
Son you should know<\/em><\/p>\n

2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Parents can talk to their children about the changes in the home and agree that sometimes it just doesn\u2019t seem to make sense. Parents can help their children trust them to make the right decisions for the family. It is also important to talk to children about what will not change, as the dad in the song explains.<\/p>\n

Sometimes moms and dads fall out of love
Sometimes two homes are better than one
Some things you can’t tell your sister ’cause she’s still too young
Yeah you’ll understand
When you love someone<\/em><\/p>\n

There ain’t no one here to blame<\/em><\/p>\n

3.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Children understand divorce differently at different ages. While one child might be acting out, another might be too young to understand. While keeping secrets from children might seem wrong, there are some things kids don\u2019t need to know. For example, a parent\u2019s affair should be a private matter between the adults. Blaming a parent hurts children. This dad wisely says there is no one to blame. He is giving his child permission to love both parents.<\/p>\n

Nothing’s going to change with your old friends
Your room will stay the same
‘Cause you’ll only be away on the weekends<\/em><\/p>\n

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Parents never stop loving their children.<\/p>\n

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4.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 And, this father says, sometimes it is better for the family to be in two houses. This is especially true when there has been frequent conflict. This song references a timeshare where the children are with one parent during the week, and the other on the weekends. Although parents share time with their children in many different ways, it does help your children to know what their schedule will be.<\/p>\n

It don’t make sense but nevertheless<\/em><\/p>\n

You gotta believe us, it’s all for the best
It don’t make sense
It don’t add up
We’ll always love you no matter what<\/em><\/p>\n

5.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Normalizing divorce (though it may not be \u201cnormal\u201d for your family) is important. The singer says sometimes parents simply fall out of love, despite their best intentions. It is a sad reality that even when both parents want the marriage<\/a> to succeed, sometimes it just doesn\u2019t. But they never stop loving their children and they continue to reassure their children about this important fact.<\/p>\n

Sometimes moms and dads fall out of love
Sometimes two homes are better than one
Some things you can’t tell your sister ’cause she’s still too young
Yeah you’ll understand
When you love someone
When you love someone<\/em><\/p>\n

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Adolescents don’t understand adult relationships, although they may think they need to intervene.<\/p>\n

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6.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Children understand divorce differently at different ages. While one child might be acting out, another might be too young to understand. While keeping secrets from children might seem wrong, there are some things kids don\u2019t need to know. For example, a parent\u2019s affair should be a private matter between the adults. Blaming a parent hurts children. This dad wisely says there is no one to blame. He is giving his child permission to love both parents.<\/p>\n

Come home early after class
Don’t be hanging ’round the back of the schoolyard
And if we’re crying on the couch
Don’t let it freak you out
This has been so hard<\/em><\/p>\n

7.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Parents have strong feelings too and divorce is hard, but it helps kids to know that a parents\u2019 tears are okay,<\/p>\n

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Siblings understand divorce differently at different ages.<\/p>\n

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Sometimes moms and dads fall out of love<\/em><\/p>\n

Sometimes the best intentions just ain’t enough
Some things you can’t tell your sister ’cause she’s still too young
Yeah you’ll understand
When you love someone<\/em><\/p>\n

8.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 That truism frequently stated by parents in many situations is \u201cSomeday you will understand.\u201d This is certainly true in divorce situations. Children don\u2019t understand adult relationships. They sometimes think they do, and they want to be confidantes or to take care of a parent who seems vulnerable. It is important to reassure children that while the divorce doesn\u2019t seem to make sense now, perhaps in the future they will have an understanding of why their parents divorced<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Source:\u00a0LyricFind<\/p>\n

See on YouTube: https:\/\/youtu.be\/0Bf3CJZ4hvg<\/a><\/p>\n

Songwriters: James Taylor-Watts \/ Nolan Sipe \/ Sam Hollander<\/p>\n

When You Love Someone lyrics \u00a9 Sony\/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group<\/p>\n<\/div>\n


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