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<\/figure>\nDo you promise to love, honor and cherish each other, yadda, yadda yadda?<\/em><\/p>\n Yeah right!<\/p>\n One or more of those can easily be casualties during the wedding preparations even before you\u2019ve tied the knot.<\/p>\n Maybe it\u2019s time for a Wedding Vow makeover.<\/p>\n How about this? (It also works for business partnerships)<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cWhen an inevitable conflict arises, do you each promise to pause before you blame, yell, scream, shut down or withdraw? And furthermore, do you each promise that while you are pausing and before you speak, you will ask yourself how you contributed to the conflict and what expectation(s) you had of the other person that was either unfair or unrealistic? And finally, do you each promise that if either of you are unable to do this for any reason, that you will commit yourself to developing the skills to do so?\u201d<\/p>\n Are you chuckling at or thinking, \u201cYeah right!\u201d to this?<\/p>\n If so, then what you are saying is that you believe that whatever you think or feel, that you are in the right and expect the other person to agree with you and conform their behavior accordingly.<\/p>\n It\u2019s also likely that you\u2019re a \u201chigh maintenance\u201d person who is easier to upset than you are to please.<\/p>\n If that is the case, go ahead get married\u2026 then get BTW I learned this from a friend of mine who was in his third marriage to a woman who was in her second marriage. <\/p>\n When I asked him, \u201cWhat is the secret to a lasting and happy marriage?\u201d he replied, \u201cNeither my wife nor I got married before thinking it would end up in a divorce, but we each did. What we\u2019ve done differently this time is come up with a code of conduct for dealing with a difference of opinion which might escalate to a disagreement but will go now further into an argument or worse that is more important to each of us than winning, be right or getting our way.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
\ndivorced and perhaps one day you\u2019ll wake up.<\/p>\n
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