Divorce, as difficult as it is, can also mean new opportunity, a happier life, and a more peaceful way to live. So, when it comes to divorce and the new year, there are certain new year’s resolutions every divorced person should consider, actions that will make 2026 your best year ever!
These don’t have to be your new year’s resolutions, but they might make you think about things, and what you might be able to change to better yourself and your life.
Divorce and the new year: 12 resolutions:
1. I will try to treat my ex with kindness:
Are you rolling your eyes? Don’t! Treating your ex this way is good for YOU and good for your kids. Have you ever heard anyone say, “I wish I wouldn’t have been so nice?” Never. You will like yourself more and that self-like/love will change things for you. I promise. Also, how about “I will try to treat MYSELF with kindness?” Go easy on yourself. You are still learning and you have been through a lot!
2. I will only talk about my ex in a good way in front of our kids.
When kids hear their mom or dad talk about the other in a negative way, it seriously hurts them so much. Please, call your girlfriend and vent and complain about your ex if you need to, or tell your therapist, or your divorce coach, or journal your pain. However you need to express your frustration, do it. Just don’t do it in front of the kids.
3. I will stop looking at old photos of my ex for a little while.
If you are the one who was left, and/or you still wish you were with your ex-spouse, you might still be looking at photos and thinking, “If only I would have done this…maybe we’d still be together…” Please please stop torturing and/or punishing yourself. You don’t deserve that at all. Try not to look back and think about what you regret, what you did wrong, and instead look at the future and try to imagine what and who will make you happy. Put the photos away just for a little while.
4. I will make more of an effort and keep an open mind when it comes to dating.
This is the year to say yes to blind dates, get your profile up on a dating app, and reach out to that guy who you know has an interest in you. What are you waiting for? Look, I know dating is scary and there are so many duds out there. But there are also so many wonderful people who want to be in a great romantic relationship. You deserve to be happy! So, if you want to meet someone, take action.
5. I will take the high road, regardless of how my ex is acting
In case your ex doesn’t get around to reading this article, and he or she is his or her same old self, acting rude, being short, saying cruel things, just let it roll off of you like rain on a plastic rain coat. If you act polite, you will never be sorry. What good does acting rude back do? Nothing but hurt your children.
6. I will stop talking about him/her to everyone
I understand that you need to vent, but know when it’s enough. What I’m saying is, no one wants to meet you for a glass of wine and hear about what a jerk your ex is or who he is dating and what a bitch that girl is. Remember that everyone has problems, even if they have a good marriage. Don’t forget to ask your girlfriends about THEIR lives. I know it seems like your divorce is the center of the universe (that’s how it was with me) and it is. But there is so much more in life to talk about.
7. I will appreciate my body and my health and stop focusing on my physical flaws.
Instead of worrying that you just gained 10 pounds during the holidays, focus on the fact that you are healthy enough to go to the gym and lose it in January. You’re great! You’re beautiful! Focus on highlighting what you HAVE and lastly, if you love yourself on the inside, you will like what you see in the mirror.
8. I will stop analyzing what went wrong or what I did wrong.
Leave the past in the past. It’s exhausting to keep drudging it up. Aren’t you tired? Think about today. Live and enjoy every single day. And, think ahead to how you are going to get the life you want and deserve. Living in the past only creates sadness and regret. You deserve better than that.
9. I will try to let go of the hate, anger and resentment.
If you have hate, anger and resentment, it’s very hard to live a happy life. A divorced woman once said to me, “I can’t let it go. I don’t know how.” No one can tell you how to let it go, and you can’t fake it. This one is all in your heart.
10. I will start loving myself more.
If you are a good parent, and if you live your life trying to be a good person and do good things, what’s not to love? PLEASE, recognize and appreciate all your wonderful qualities and stop focusing on what you lack.
11. I will live in the present moment and stop focusing on the past and the future.
Looking at the past is unproductive and can feel depressing. Looking at the future tends to cause anxiety and fear, unless you are looking at your dreams and goals. What matters so much is how you spend each day, enjoying and appreciating it like a gift, and being with the people you love.
12. I will let God drive.
Remember how little control we have over our lives. Remember that we can only control what we do and how we act. We can’t control what is going to happen to us. So, let God control that, and have faith that He will take care of you. In other words, stop being afraid and just live.
Happy New Year, and best wishes for a truly happy 2026!
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