A DIVORCE lawyer has revealed the huge tell-tale high a married couple won’t last, and it’s obvious before they even say ‘I do’.
Appearing on a recent episode of the Human Talk podcast Lawyer James S. Sexton shared some of his thoughts on the matter.
According to the pro, it’s clear when a couple are in it for the wrong reasons from their wedding day.
“I believe sometimes the bigger the wedding, the more likely the divorce. That’s been my experience,” James explained.
And it’s not just the wedding that’s a dead giveaway either, James added that he can also predict if someone will call it quits if they’ve got an especially big ring too.
He called big weddings “extremely performative” as well as “narcissistic” on the podcast.
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This, he explained, is all because the whole spectacle of a big wedding comes down to attention.
From posting the big ring on social media, to having a posh engagement party, followed by a bunch of activities based around planning the wedding where everything is focused on the bride-to-be.
Then there’s the hen-do, maybe even a rehearsal dinner and the big day, followed by a big honeymoon.
“If this is really important to you, you’re telling me a lot about yourself. You’re telling me how important being the centre of attention is to you,” James said.
After sharing his thoughts, it turns out James wasn’t the only person who thought big weddings were a bad sign.
“I was a wedding photographer for 5 years, 80% of the weddings I was hired to do ended up in divorce. I had to put a new clause in my contract because people asked for refunds post divorce,” one commented.
A second has a similar experience: “I’m a makeup artist and I can 100% tell who is going to be divorced by the way the brides morning goes & how the groom treats the bride.”
“As a professional violinist who has played hundreds of weddings? I 100% agree with this. 100%,” another chimed in.
“Most people plan for a wedding and not a marriage,” someone else commented.
And another wrote: “He’s absolutely right, it all screams validation!”
Previously, a wedding planner also revealed she could tell when a couple weren’t in it for the long run too – and it all comes down to a few signs.
Cake smashing
Cake smashing is a viral trend that has soared in popularity in recent years.
It sees the newlyweds smash wedding cake into each other’s faces, in what is supposed to be a fun and playful moment of the wedding.
However, Birdie says the tradition spells doom.
“I don’t know what it represents, but none of my brides and grooms that did it are still together”, she said.
Planning things on the sly
Couples often have strict budgets for their weddings, but Birdie says she has seen plenty of incidents where one person will respect the budget, and the other won’t.
For example, she revealed that sometimes a bride-to-be will ask her to “add this to the flowers”, and to promise not to tell her fiancé about the added cost.
“Those people are getting divorced”, she said.
Husbands that aren’t bothered
Many women dream of planning their wedding day from a young age, but some men couldn’t care less about the flower arrangements, or the colour scheme.
“If his one job was to pick a DJ, and we’re a week before the wedding, and he hasn’t gotten it done, that husband is completely checked out”, Birdie said.
The wedding planner’s video, which was posted under the username @biride1216, has likely struck a chord with many people, as it has racked up an impressive 2.7 million views.
Signs your relationship is heading for a divorce
- Persistent Communication Breakdowns
Constant misunderstandings, arguments, or a complete lack of meaningful conversation can signal deep-seated issues. - Emotional Distance
Feeling like roommates rather than partners, with a noticeable lack of intimacy or emotional connection. - Frequent Criticism and Contempt
Regularly criticising each other and showing contempt, such as sarcasm, eye-rolling, or mocking, can erode the relationship’s foundation. - Unresolved Conflicts
Recurrent arguments about the same issues without any resolution can indicate deeper incompatibilities. - Loss of Trust
Trust is crucial in any relationship. If it’s been broken and cannot be rebuilt, it may be a sign that the relationship is in trouble. - Different Life Goals
Significant differences in future aspirations, such as career goals, lifestyle choices, or family planning, can create insurmountable divides. - Avoidance
Preferring to spend time apart rather than together, whether through work, hobbies, or social activities, can indicate a desire to escape the relationship. - Lack of Support
Feeling unsupported, whether emotionally, financially, or practically, can lead to feelings of isolation and resentment. - Financial Disagreements
Constantly arguing about money, spending habits, or financial priorities can strain the relationship. - Infidelity
Whether physical or emotional, infidelity can be a major breach of trust and a sign of deeper issues in the relationship. - Changes in Affection
A noticeable decrease in affection, physical touch, or romantic gestures can indicate a loss of connection.
