Money, divorce and separation — an expert guide – Now To Love
There’s no time like the present to get your health under control – and that includes your financial health.
May 20, 2019 1:15pm
Many people are finding it increasingly difficult to juggle their dollars and cents, mostly due to the rising cost of living.
Credit card debt is adding to financial stresses and strains with the Australian Securities & Investments Commission finding one in six people with a credit card are in a “debt trap”. Australians owe at least $45 billion on their cards.
The Centre for Social Impact and NAB have also highlighted how many of us are losing our “financial resilience” – the ability to draw on adequate finances and support when an unexpected expense occurs.
The CSI report last year found one in eight people experienced severe or high financial stress in the past 12 months and found 14 percent have no savings.
“Finance is critical. Even if you’re not driven by money, it determines where you live and the choices you’re able to make,” says Professor Kristy Muir of the Centre for Social Impact.
The Financial Stress Index by CoreData found more than 66 percent of financially worried Australians think money stresses cause anxiety or depression.
More than 60 percent of people surveyed said financial stress was having a negative impact on their physical health, and three-quarters said money issues were causing family arguments.
Any time is a good time to take a closer look at your financial health. Helen Baker, a qualified financial advisor and author of a guide to financially surviving divorce, knows what it’s like to summon up the courage to take a good hard look at your finances and start again after her four-year marriage abruptly ended when she was in her twenties.
“And as with ill health, the longer you leave a problem the harder it can be to treat. You can always see an expert to look through your finances and if they are in good shape that will give you peace of mind. If you aren’t in the right financial position, you have the opportunity to make some changes and to become financially healthy.”
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“Being single, you are in complete control of your finances – you don’t have to worry about anybody else spending your money,” says Helen. So, if you are single and without any major commitments, it’s one of the best times to start building your financial strength.
Helen recommends starting to build what she calls the five foundations:
- Start an emergency fund for a rainy day
- Have a spending plan and stick to it
- Start a separate investment plan to begin building your wealth and assets
- Have appropriate insurances in place
- Look at your superannuation to ensure you’re not paying excessive fees.
Check that your insurance cover is adequate, including your health policy.
“Single people make the mistake of thinking that they can worry about all these things later – they’re young and have plenty of time,” says Helen. “But it’s important to understand the power of time in any investment. If you put money into super or an investment and give it a long time to work, the outcome is better than if you do it later in life. It’s the compounding effect of interest and investment growth and income over a longer period of time that matters.
Tip: Avoid impulse buying, if you can. It’s a good idea to wait a month before deciding to splurge.
But issues can arise if people in a relationship have a different approach to financial health – for example, if one is a spender and the other is a saver.
“The real problems begin when a couple stop talking about money, so they have no combined goals and no foundation for financial health in place. Both people in a relationship need to be involved in financial decisions,” explains Helen.
- The Australian Securities and Investment Commission says there are key issues to discuss about financial health in a relationship including your current financial situation – what are your income and expenses, assets and debts and your credit rating? Will one person be the financial controller, or will you share that responsibility?
- Put both names on utilities so you share responsibility equally and have both names on loans for major assets, like your home.
- If you and your partner both have private health insurance, a couples plan or family plan is often cheaper and insurers also offer discounts if you cover all your insurance needs within one organisation.
- Have all details of accounts, loans, investments and insurances in one place so each of you can access that information when needed, says ASIC.
Tip: Use a budget-tracking app that can sync between your phones. This way you and your partner have to account for any outgoings.
If you’re separated or divorced
Helen recommends focusing on the 4 Cs during separation and divorce.
“From there you get some Control about how assets will be split up and you need Certainty about what will happen next and what you need to do to get ahead. Then you chip away at things, re-establish your financial position and get Confidence.”
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Separating couples also lose the economies of scale of living together and, if one person hasn’t been part of the workforce for a while, re-training or upskilling may be needed.
Seek guidance from a financial adviser with divorce planning expertise who can advise on what assets you should try and retain.
- List your assets and debts and close joint accounts and credit cards.
- Change your PIN and online banking password if your ex-partner knows them.
- Collect documents, including your birth certificate, passport, marriage certificate, bank and superannuation statements, insurance policies, tax returns and car registration papers.
- Once you receive a settlement, lock it down – don’t spend it. A new holiday may be tempting, but the money will disappear quickly.
- Invest the settlement well so you retain what you are left with and make money with that investment.
- Plan for the future.
- Put protection mechanisms in place in the next relationship, so you don’t lose what you have.