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‘I think I was relieved’: life on the other side of mature age divorce
The instance of mature couples divorcing is on the rise. Are over 50s less inclined to stay together than their parents, and what makes a ‘good uncoupling’? Vicki Milliken “I went through this process of feeling like my future had been stolen from me,” says 53-year-old Kate Christie about the end of her 22-year marriage. “He said to me, ‘I don’t love you any more. I want to leave our marriage. I want the chance to meet and fall in love with someone else while I’m still young.’ And that was that.” “I felt really blindsided. I was angry, upset […]
12 Things I Wish I Knew When I was Getting Divorced
I’d walk around on the verge of tears all day long, every day. I felt really scared. I felt sad. I felt angry. I felt like a failure. I felt worried about my young children. And, I felt very very alone. I’m referring to a time in my life several years ago, when I was first getting divorced. I didn’t know one person who was going through a divorce and I felt like had no one. No one to talk to, no one to listen, and no one who understood how I was feeling. I didn’t want to talk to […]
Rising AI Use Paired With Layoffs Invites Age Bias Litigation
Employers like IBM that conduct layoffs while integrating more artificial intelligence into operations face potential exposure to age bias lawsuits if older workers are among the first to get a pink slip. Human resources departments increasingly have been adopting AI-powered tools to help streamline their business processes and efficiently complete tasks like drafting job descriptions and performance reviews or responding to employee inquiries. As a result, there’s a growing discomfort at the prospect that jobs traditionally viewed as needing a human touch may now actually be on the chopping block. “In the past, HR fields haven’t necessarily been a field […]
Litigation costs: an age-old problem, a fixed solution
It isn’t necessary to read Bleak House, centred on the infamous Jarndyce v Jarndyce inheritance dispute which dragged on for many generations devouring the entire estate, to understand the problem that is the costs of litigation. The author’s view of the chancery court system is withering: “Suffer any wrong that can be done you rather than come here!” This article aims to provide a simple overview of the issue and of new rules aimed at resolving it. The problem A more recent, real-life, example is the case of Court v Van Dijk, a dispute over who should pay for work […]
Financial Abuse in a Marriage: Signs and Steps to Take if You’re a Victim
Everyone understands the significance and power of money. It’s not supposed to buy us happiness, but it sure can make us comfortable, and provide choices in our lives. Money can be used to make insecure people feel successful, it can be used to be loving, generous, and thoughtful, and it can also be used as a weapon in a marriage to control a partner silently. Using money to control someone is financial abuse. Financial abuse in a marriage doesn’t get the attention it deserves. Conversations around abuse in marriage typically include physical, sexual, emotional, and verbal abuse, while financial abuse […]
Being Petty in Divorce: You’re Only Hurting You
One of my least favorite words is petty, and being petty really bothers me. Sometimes I catch myself being petty, and all it does is make me feel badly about myself. When I see others acting petty, it bothers me a lot. Being petty in divorce happens a lot. I see it. According to The Free Dictionary, if something is petty, that means it’s trivial, not of big importance. I’m not saying divorce is trivial, what I’m saying is, divorced people sometimes make a big issue out of petty matters. Also, being petty means a lack of generosity. Here are […]